I must be manic as I am starting NaNo tomorrow and have decided to start my weekly serial blog about The Horrors of dating in my 30s.
This week's episode is titled: A preview into dating in my 30's and the internet.
Ten years is a long time in the dating world. The internet was
invented and people now speed through dates or place a personal ad. Basically
the chances of being rejected before even meeting someone or within the first
five minutes of meeting are high. I have come to the conclusion that it takes
more than two dates and one night of passion to find out if you should even
pursue anything further. Why waste several months on the wrong man? So my
mission became; how do I find the right man and where? Not so suddenly at
thirty something, with two children, I’m on the hunt for a man.
So it all begins with internet dating sites. Is this like the
blind date? In a way yes but blind dates are usually set up. People known by
people you know. A vague screening process has at least taken place and this
person has been spotted in real life and isn’t being represented by a sexy
photo plucked off the internet and a fake profile. Is the offline internet
meeting the blind date equivalent of the 10’s? I was about to find
out.
For the purposes of anonymity I won’t name the actual places I
cruised all for the name of research. Well that is what I’m calling it anyway. I
decided before I began that I could claim the expenses as tax deductions. I
could find out a little bit about the dating world for the purposes of writing
and actually score a date. It would be easy or so I thought.
I wasn’t prepared for what I would discover in the online world
and I discovered very quickly that people aren’t always as they pretend to be or
what their profiles claim (OK I’ve been on enough internet forums to know this
already but I went naively into this thinking that this was different). If
someone seems too good to be true then they probably are. Needless to say the
internet dating part of my tour was interesting and has many parts so this
episode will be broken into two. This week I set you up, lead you into my world
and then let you know how horrid the dating world can be. I hope that this is
really the case and not that I am totally undateable!
So next week begins my journey into the horrors of the dating
world in my 30’s and the internet.
This week's episode is titled: A preview into dating in my 30's and the internet.
Ten years is a long time in the dating world. The internet was
invented and people now speed through dates or place a personal ad. Basically
the chances of being rejected before even meeting someone or within the first
five minutes of meeting are high. I have come to the conclusion that it takes
more than two dates and one night of passion to find out if you should even
pursue anything further. Why waste several months on the wrong man? So my
mission became; how do I find the right man and where? Not so suddenly at
thirty something, with two children, I’m on the hunt for a man.
So it all begins with internet dating sites. Is this like the
blind date? In a way yes but blind dates are usually set up. People known by
people you know. A vague screening process has at least taken place and this
person has been spotted in real life and isn’t being represented by a sexy
photo plucked off the internet and a fake profile. Is the offline internet
meeting the blind date equivalent of the 10’s? I was about to find
out.
For the purposes of anonymity I won’t name the actual places I
cruised all for the name of research. Well that is what I’m calling it anyway. I
decided before I began that I could claim the expenses as tax deductions. I
could find out a little bit about the dating world for the purposes of writing
and actually score a date. It would be easy or so I thought.
I wasn’t prepared for what I would discover in the online world
and I discovered very quickly that people aren’t always as they pretend to be or
what their profiles claim (OK I’ve been on enough internet forums to know this
already but I went naively into this thinking that this was different). If
someone seems too good to be true then they probably are. Needless to say the
internet dating part of my tour was interesting and has many parts so this
episode will be broken into two. This week I set you up, lead you into my world
and then let you know how horrid the dating world can be. I hope that this is
really the case and not that I am totally undateable!
So next week begins my journey into the horrors of the dating
world in my 30’s and the internet.
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