We didn’t meet in the conventional way. But what is conventional? He swept me off my feet and to me what more could one need? Well a lot more and that is sometimes the problem. 

My dark handsome stranger became my best friend with the usual benefits. The sex is hot and there is the connection. Yet as it always does (well it can), sex gets in the way. The initial spark fades and the gloss has worn off. Then one seeks the thrill once more.

Now not everyone you say acts on this impulse, which of course is true but everyone likes first kisses and passionate embraces. So it comes to the point where one may not have full control over their libido. I often wonder if you loved that person, why would you hurt them? The common answer could be, what they don’t know won’t hurt them.

See the problem with that is you get found out. Somehow it happens. Sure not every time but it happens. What you do from there is the important step.

Forgive and forget. Now which one is easier? Forgive I believe. If remorse is genuine and they do actually love you then forgiveness is possible when the anger fades. But to forget is something else again. How can you forget the betrayal? How can you erase the imagines from your mind? So if you can’t forget can you truly forgive?

I don’t know the answer to this question. I can forgive. I rarely hold a grudge but to forget would be another thing. Would that then fester inside me and breed contempt?

The world is a fickle place and monogamy seems hard for some. I believe the most important thing to remember is friendship, companionship.  The person you choose to spend your life with should be someone that you enjoy being around a lot. Then all you have to do is find a way to never stray.

So is monogamy really the way to go or is variety the spice of life?